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Three Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Mental Stress Right Now

Posted by on Jul 18, 2017 in Media, Stress Reduction, Stress Resilience | 0 comments

Episode 79: Interview with Sara Regester

 

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About Sara Regester

I work with the new generation of individuals who value success but want to ­find a sustainable way to thrive without wiping themselves out from their stress.  My expertise is in uncovering the underlying lifestyle patterns that open the door to health problems and distress related to stressful living.

I help my clients transform their lifestyle through sustainable mindset changes for new patterns, behaviors, and habits using unique mind-body-spirit techniques that are highly transformative.

3 big ideas discussed in this episode:

  • Stress is linked to your meaning and purpose so rather than reducing your stress why not learn how to be good at it.
  • Be a Stress Responder and not a Stress Reactor so you can harness the energy of stress to meet challenge and adversity and grow from your stress so you can be successful without wiping yourself out
  • When we say yes to others we are often saying no to yourself. Then we prioritize based on what we should do rather than what we want to do. If we ever give our energy without fueling our energy tank our giving becomes resentful and we deplete ourselves opening the door to burnout and health issues.

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Seven Tips to Turn Mistakes Into Mastery

Posted by on Sep 26, 2016 in Media, Stress Resilience, Stress Tips, Transformation | 0 comments

 

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Sara Regester, Stress Mastery Expert was recently published in the September 20, 2016 blog of the Best Kept Self online magazine which promotes self-help for the self-employed.  Read more here! 

 

Here is the full article by Sara Regester:

Seven Tips to Turn Mistakes into Mastery

I was always stressing myself out from my striving for perfection. Perfection was a box I found myself in every time I set unrealistic goals for myself. The box was actually the limitations I put on myself that kept me playing safe and not taking risks. I was a good girl, a good student, a good partner. You could count on me to do a good job.

I was always striving and pushing to be perfect. My goal was to keep everyone happy. But their happiness meant that I was living to please others. My self-worth came from the external approval of others rather than from my own self-acceptance and internal self-worth.

I often said no to opportunities if I didn’t believe I would succeed at it. I lived in resistance and procrastination rather than diving in and letting the results reflect what I was willing to learn. I lacked the confidence to invest in myself with new opportunities. I never jumped into the unknown to uncover what was behind the door. When I finally did get out of my own way, I used a lot of energy to push my way through it exhausting myself to prove my value and self-worth by striving for perfection.

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The success from this pattern of pushing and striving fueled my inner need for perfection so I could show up looking like I had it all together.

Then came my turning point, or should I say my “turn-around” point. I was receiving feedback from a mentor after an event where I had to stand in front of a group to lead them through a program. During the part of the program that I was leading, I jumped ahead in my head so I could anticipate my next steps. Jumping ahead meant that I lost connection to that present moment leading to a mistake. It was like a snowball. Once I made one mistake I felt flustered. Then I made more mistakes. After the event, I was in tears of shame about the mistakes that I made. It was at that point of total melt down when I heard the compassionate message from my mentor who said, “Let the mistakes happen.”

“Let the mistakes happen” is the mantra I used to align with performance anxiety so I could allow myself to get out of my box and step onto the edge where the real learning and growth takes place. Stepping out of my box meant I was out of my comfort zone and confronted by my stress. Allowing the mistakes to happen meant I could accept my lack of confidence and step into the experience to use my mistakes to learn and grow from. I learned that perfection is unrealistic and the real gift of my mistakes is about learning mastery.

Seven mindset hacks I used to re-frame my belief about mistakes are:

• Mistakes allow me to develop mastery so I can learn and gain more confidence and success.

• Toddlers frequently fall when they are learning how to walk. Learning to walk happens when the baby is willing to risk falling down to learn how to walk. My mistakes are how I fall down when I’m learning to walk.

• I already have already learned skills that I feel confident about. What strengths can I use from those arenas that will support me to learn something new where I lack confidence. It’s cross training what I know into an area that I don’t know.

• Mistakes are an opportunity to make adjustments or refine my actions along the way to getting better.

• Mistakes are character building. When I am outside of the box of my comfort zone I will be on the edge where the real growth opportunities exist. Hacking the old fear of mistakes gives me courage to be on the edge and out of my box.

• One of my favorite teachers used to say, “If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much room” I get what he was saying now.

• When I’m feeling performance anxiety, I remind myself that I’m really excited to perform well and to learn from my experience and that I’m not really anxious. My body responds with the stress response when I’m at the edge, but it’s my mindset the labels whether I call it feeling excited or feeling anxious.

Now that I have the freedom and compassion to allow the mistakes to happen, I can step into bigger opportunities with more presence and connection so I can stay in the present moment. I know how to stay calmer and less anxious so I can dance on the edge of my comfort zone knowing that mistakes will show me how to get better and are not a reflection of my value and self-worth. Allowing mistakes to happen during the course of learning or performing is allowing mastery to develop on a continuum. Striving for perfection is a set up for sabotage.

 

Sara Regester, Integrative Health Coach and Stress Mastery Expert, is the creator of the “Turn Your Stress into Success” Programs that support the new generation of success driven individuals stress resiliency mindset and strategies. Download her free ebook “The True Cost of Stress” at  www.Directions4Wellness.com.

 

 

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Instant Attitude Adjuster

Posted by on Aug 12, 2016 in Media, Stress Resilience, Stress Tips | 0 comments

Watch this video to demonstrate a technique that will instantly turnaround those run-away thoughts of fear and anxiety that come up when we are triggered by stress. Stress happens. Sometimes it builds and builds as things pile up and the overwhelm takes over. Other times there is something in the moment related to a person or event that sets us off.

 

 

Whatever your stress trigger is for you, either due to a pile up of competing priorities that makes you feel crazy busy or that person or situation that can throw you into stress mode in an instant; the way you respond to that stress is key.

When we go into emotional reactivity we are adopting the threat response. In this response the inner dialogue turns on the pain tapes that ramps up anxiety, shame and fear. This sends us into fight or flight mode, so we are unable to effectively meet the challenges that are facing us. We can be stuck in our head, in monkey mind mode and losing energy fast.

When we are able to recognize that we are feeling a stress response, we can meet the stress much more effectively when we are able to respond with a challenge response strategy to stop the inner dialogue that is creating the fear and anxiety. We are more present and can hold a more neutral perspective when we focus our attention on that power place in our second chakra about two-three finger breadths bellow the naval and a little back towards the spine.

The easiest way to put our attention into our power place is with the breath. From this power place we will be grounded in our body and out of our head. We can face challenge with neutrality and focus to problem solve or see the situation with clarity. We can be emotionally balanced and not in emotionality. We can contain our energy so we don’t exhaust ourselves.

The 4-7-8 Breath is one quick strategy I use frequently to shift my attitude towards stress from reactivity mode to meet the challenge mode. It helps me to create a mindful moment to shift gears out of threat response into challenge response.

Do 4 rounds of the 4-7-8 breath, as demonstrated in the video, to instantly shift your attitude to meet a challenge the next time your stress is triggered. You can do this technique any time, any place so you can drop down, shift your perspective and be more present to the challenge confronting you.

 

Sara Regester, RN, BSN

Stress Mastery Expert

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Business Journal features Sara Regester

Posted by on Jul 6, 2016 in Media, Stress Resilience | 0 comments

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Sara Regester, Stress Management Specialist from Directions 4 Wellness has been featured in the latest edition of the Phoenix Business Journal in the Speaker section.  If you are looking for a speaker for your next event, contact Sara directly at Sara@directions4wellness.com.

 

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Sara is featured in Trendsetters

Posted by on Jul 6, 2016 in Connecting with Others, Media | 0 comments

Sara Regester is featured in the July edition of Uptown Magazine in the Trendsetters section!

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