Sara Regester, Stress Mastery Expert
You have goals for 2017 and now you find that your motivation to change is waxing and waning. Life is busy and you are distracted from your goals for this year.
Here is the good news, the most successful change happens when you take small, incremental steps and get those locked in before you add to your plan.
The reason that you have failed to sustain your goals for 2017 is not a reflection that you failed but more that your plan has not been “sticky” enough to stack your deck for success.
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It’s that time of year again where we are both excited about the coming holidays and dreading them too with all the extra preparations and festivities to add to our plate. It can be a time-crunch causing us to push with our energy to beat the clock and squeeze in all that shopping, baking, prepping and socializing.
The holiday season is a time when we push through to not miss out on anything and pull our hair out at the same time when we feel we are burning the candle at both ends.
So here is a tip to use when you have so much to do and so little time. It’s about prioritizing your to-do list by the discernment of “I want to” vs. “I should do”.
Here’s the question to ask yourSELF and many when you have competing priorities and many opportunities. Ask yourself, “What do I want to do?” Say yes to those things that are truly your heart’s desire to fuel for your energy bank. When you hear yourself saying “I should do this…” then that is the thing to delegate to someone else or say no thanks. The things that you “should” do are what create the overwhelm because they take up precious space in your day.
When you prioritize the things that you want to do, you can gain energy from that joyful place of giving. When you give because you should to it, you will risk opening the door to resentment. When we over give and deplete ourselves or spread ourselves too thin, we risk going into resentful giving. There is no joy or energy gain if our holidays are driven by the should-do’s and not the I want to do’s”.
Practice fueling your energy bank by listening with your heart’s desire. Joyful giving is energizing and resentful giving is depleting. Always give from a full tank to not deplete your energy reserves and run yourself down.
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Sara Regester’s article titled, “The Skill of Being Lost to Find a New Way,” was published in the October 9, 2016 Kicking Ass & Looking Pretty.
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It was late in the day when I pulled off the highway to take a hike near Sedona. The majestic red rock formations rising against the green trees called to me all day as I worked with my client. The landscape was so seductive. I kept walking further and further like a magnet being pulled down the trail. I carefully watched for landmarks as I connected to the beauty around me. The earth was so red that the mountains appeared to be on fire in the late sun and the brush and trees were such a deep green contrast of life against the desert stone. The air smelled so fresh and alive. I could feel the vibration of the life force energy pulsing right through me.
As I searched to find my way I reflected on the metaphor of what being lost is, knowing that there is always a deeper lesson to learn in these situations. I think Spirit might have even been laughing at me asking “Now what is she going to do?”
I deliberately chose to take a new trail and not my usual path. I felt triumphant to be spontaneous to hike at the end of my day before heading back to Phoenix. I felt empowered by the opportunity to break pattern and to explore a new landscape, to make my connection with nature and fill my cup after a long day. This was my treat, my pleasure and my reward. Yet, it almost ended badly at the moment that I realized I lost my way on the trail.
I talk to my clients about re-wiring their brain to reframe mindset, change habits and create new behavior patterns in terms of hiking on a trail. I give the example of deliberately or “mindfully” choosing to step off the defined, habitual trail and to cut a new trail. I wonder how often do we “get lost” when we are creating a new neuro pathway to change a pattern or a habit. What happens when we wander off the unfamiliar trail and step into the unknown? We may feel fear as we step out of our comfort zone. We either give up and go back to the old trail or the default pattern, or we give up and stay stuck where we are somewhere between the pattern we left and where we want to go with a new way.
But I could see what I do when I’m lost on a new trail. Because I’ve been here before so many times. I’m good at being lost and finding my way using my tips and strategies to stay calm and find a solution. Being lost is a test of tenacity, a confrontation to increase my self worth and a testing and challenge so I can gain mastery of that new trail that I’m seeking. For me, being lost on a new trail is part of my process for creating my new way and to break free from my old default way. So it is with my clients. I’m able to teach stress management because I use the tools myself everyday and I know that being more present, containing my energy, leaning into my resource circle for support, are all great strategies to move through a challenging situation or a busy day with effective problem solving and staying in emotional balance to conserve energy and not get stuck in my track.
Just when I had my epiphany that for me being lost is part of my process to re-wire my mindset so I can create a new pattern, or to become masterful in something new, out of the outer edge of my left eye, I saw a fleeting glimpse of a white T-shirt. I could have missed this fleck of life as it disappeared behind the brush.
I walked a little faster and gave a little shout. “Hey! Can you help me? I have lost my way.” This man was going where I needed to go. I was not alone. I reached out for his support, which instantly released the tension that I was feeling in my chest. As I followed him at a discrete distance back to the parking area, I was convinced that he was a miracle. He was an angel appearing from nowhere in the exact moment that I needed support. Within a blink I could have missed him on the trail and there would have not been anyone else so late in the day. So once again, I demonstrated my skill at being lost and the vast resources that are available when I am receptive to my surroundings, receptive to Spirit and receptive to this angel who manifested from no where to show me the way back to the path before the darkness completely fell.
I recently attended the Authentic Speaker Academy workshop so I could learn how to effectively share my message. I was under the clock, in front of a real audience while being evaluated by my mentors. I used my own Stress Resilience Strategies to remind myself to meet this challenge with excitement so I could perform well and not feel overcome by performance anxiety related to my trigger of being judged and getting feedback. I used the “Meet the Challenge” stress response to cultivate excitement so I could learn and grow from my experience and not wipe myself out from fear of failure and anxiety.
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The HOW is more important than the WHAT. My teacher always reminds me that the events in my life are not my life but HOW I deal with the events in my life is my life. The Universe drops opportunities for us to evolve and grow in our lives all the time and the way we navigate through them or the HOW we deal with life is more important than the WHAT that is happening.
So this also goes along with the teaching of “staying out of personality and events” when I’m having experiences in life. Many times when I’m observing a life event I remind myself “it’s not about me.” This helps to focus on what is really within my arena to manage. When one is able to stay out of personality and events it is easier to stay out of judgment and to hold a neutral perception of the situation.
This is how we create beauty in our lives and support our own evolution as a mature soul.