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January 2018 Newsletter

Posted by on Feb 8, 2018 in Emotions, Health and Wellness, Newsletters | 0 comments

Being Independent is Not What You Think it Is

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Sara Regester, Stress Mastery Expert

Directions 4 Wellness

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Being Independent Is Not What You Think It Is

Posted by on Jan 24, 2018 in Health and Wellness, Stress Resilience, Stress Tips | 0 comments

 

I had an amazing epiphany the other day about the down side of being an Independent person. Autonomy is really what we want to create for ourselves so we can step into our empowerment to express our gifts without apologies. Autonomy will bring us more freedom than being independent.

My amazing clients are typically life-long learners who value success and are willing to push and strive a bit harder for the success they have created.  They come to me because they are running out of steam, feeling unfulfilled and wishing their relationships were better.

Many of these individuals have learned to be successful by being independent. They learned to not rely on others and take pride in their independence. They feel that they need to control the outcome to meet their high standards. They may control and micromanage the people or the process to stay on track. They take on the work of others instead of asking for help. Independent individuals avoid making mistakes because they are driven by perfection.  They are not exactly sure what it means to be “receptive.”

The independent ones have learned to be survival adaptable and to be self-reliant no matter what. They may over commit themselves to feel valued or competent. They are a rebel who will take a stand to be right or to fight for their cause. They are thinking ahead to cover all the bases.

There is a perception in our culture that to be independent is an ideal characteristic, especially in women. Independent women can pay a price by doing it all alone, without help and may be exhausted, burned out, stressed out or wiping out their health. They are strong in their career arena but not in their personal relationship arena.

I describe these hard-working busy bees like a bird flapping their wings to fly with a lot of energy and effort because they have no loft under their wings.  Less effort is needed to fly when gliding with the loft of the thermals under your wing. Flying with flow is what autonomy can bring. Flying with the draft of the wind under your wings connects you to flow in the present moment.

It’s more energy conserving to be autonomous. Autonomy is different than being independent. Autonomy is to be interdependent, inter-related and inter-reliable with others.  Autonomy is about prioritizing your heart’s desire without losing yourself to the perception of pleasing others. To gather the wind under your wings is to fly with flow when you are able to receive the support from your partner or your community. When you have a team behind you to have your back. When you can stand in your own circle of empowerment and feel confident, so you can shine with your gifts and lead others to their success.

Flying with the wind under your wings is like soaring with the thermals. Catching opportunities and having the bandwidth to say yes to spontaneity because you are connected to the present moment and not ruminating in the past or anxious about the future. Being receptive to your desire to create a life that is joyful and fulfilling.

If you are curious how you can create more autonomy to catch more loft under your wings, schedule your Evolutionary Blueprint Session so you can learn how you are designed to be autonomous and free to flow with more loft under your wings. Contact Sara Regester directly at Sara@directions4wellness.com or visit her website at www.directions4wellness.com

 

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Do You Want Holiday Flow or Holiday Frenzy?

Posted by on Nov 28, 2017 in Connecting with Others, Emotions, Health and Wellness, Stress Tips | 0 comments

 

We all do it…..fill up our plate with extra things to do between Thanksgiving and New Year. There is a long list of fun things that come up on the calendar, as well as honoring our traditions, commitments and gift buying and giving. We bake, we shop, we wrap and we often do some version of sending out cards. We may even throw a party. Some of us double up on these holiday activities if we are also covering our business or workplace with some holiday cheer.

Often, we arrive at the New Year breathless and ready for life to feel ordinary again as we fly into the final stretch hardly enjoying the peace of the winter solstice as a time of going inwards to reflect on the year behind us as we intend what we want in the year ahead of us. Making time for “me time” is critical to maintain your health and sanity.

What if you could do it differently this year? Less stress and overwhelm with more fulfillment and fun. This is what you can put on your list for Santa! Your opportunity to do it differently is to create more space to fit in the extra things that are part of your holiday tradition. You don’t need permission to change up your traditions. If you do need permission to let go of the “should do list” I’m offering it to you now.

Here are some ideas to create more space so you can flow and not push your way through the season. Pushing will make your giving feel resentful and not joyful.

Start with making a list of all the extra things that are coming up before the end of the year. Be realistic when you prioritize your time and energy so you don’t get run down from burning the candle at both ends. Remember, you were already busy before the holidays hit.

  • Prioritize the things you love to do that are energizing. These are the things that you “want to do” that make your heart happy.
  • Honor the commitments that you do each year as part of your tradition that you really don’t enjoy doing. These might be the things that you feel you “should do”
    • Find a new way to do them to make them more fun. Put on holiday music while you work on it.
    • Enlist support to share the task with others so you’re not doing it all yourself. Baking and wrapping as a group effort makes less time.
    • Wrap your gifts using gift bags and not rolls of paper and tape; easy-peasy
    • Stop doing the extra time-takers that don’t add to your holiday joy
  • Balance Holiday giving with Holiday receiving by asking for help and saying yes to others who offer you some help. Remove “No, thanks, I’ve got this” out of your vocabulary! Saying yes to others provides them the opportunity to give to you and feel appreciated. Remember this wisdom; “It’s never too late to delegate!”
  • Break down your to-do list into smaller realistic steps and draw out a timeline to spread tasks to fit into windows of time rather than thinking you need a bigger time frame to get your project done. This is especially helpful if you are stuck in procrastination.
  • Ask yourself seriously, is it time to let this tradition go so you can create more space in your season.
  • Finally, the gift of presence is the best present of all, prioritize your time to really enjoy or touch those who you cherish the most!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Step Away from the Drama! Conserve Your Energy!

Posted by on Oct 27, 2017 in Emotions, Stress Resilience, Stress Tips | 0 comments

 

We can get triggered by other people around us when we are pulled into their drama that is their “stuff” that doesn’t have anything to do with us. When people are reactive, their negativity can spread into the space and impact everyone in the vicinity.

This is a major energy drain for most of us. But if we care, and want to be a nice person, don’t we want to help them feel better? We may be seduced into the middle of their story thinking that we can help them to fix their problem. This may in turn trigger self-pity or resentment within us.

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Three Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Mental Stress Right Now

Posted by on Jul 18, 2017 in Media, Stress Reduction, Stress Resilience | 0 comments

Episode 79: Interview with Sara Regester

 

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About Sara Regester

I work with the new generation of individuals who value success but want to ­find a sustainable way to thrive without wiping themselves out from their stress.  My expertise is in uncovering the underlying lifestyle patterns that open the door to health problems and distress related to stressful living.

I help my clients transform their lifestyle through sustainable mindset changes for new patterns, behaviors, and habits using unique mind-body-spirit techniques that are highly transformative.

3 big ideas discussed in this episode:

  • Stress is linked to your meaning and purpose so rather than reducing your stress why not learn how to be good at it.
  • Be a Stress Responder and not a Stress Reactor so you can harness the energy of stress to meet challenge and adversity and grow from your stress so you can be successful without wiping yourself out
  • When we say yes to others we are often saying no to yourself. Then we prioritize based on what we should do rather than what we want to do. If we ever give our energy without fueling our energy tank our giving becomes resentful and we deplete ourselves opening the door to burnout and health issues.

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